Top 9 ways to get over Divorce Heartache
Who am I?
Look in the mirror and really see the person looking back at you. They are a real live human being who are special and unique with a heart that is in pain at the moment but which is still capable of love. I bet it’s some time since you did that. So now you really need to reacquaint you with yourself and get to know yourself better just like you would a new friend. And that’s who you are – a genuine person who has temporarily forgotten that, because of all the divorce grief and divorce depression that they have been going through. So lets start making you feel better about yourself.
What can I do?
1. Every day do something nice for yourself – a walk, a bubble bath, read a book, watch a comedy programme. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you enjoy doing it and for a period of time you have forgotten about your reasons for divorce. Just totally immerse yourself in the experience of what you have chosen to do.
2. Buy yourself something new. It doesn’t matter whether its a dress (provided you can afford it) or some special soap as long as it
makes you feel special and forget the divorce effects that have been upsetting you.
3. When you looked in the mirror did you see anything that you wanted to change? How long have you had that hairdo and that colour? Maybe its time for a good cut and a change of look that is more flattering than the one you currently have. After all fashions change and new products come on the market. Spoil yourself and see what you think when you next look at yourself. I discuss all this in more detail in my eBook 3 Easy Steps to End Divorce Pain.
What are the next 3 divorce tips?
4. Spend time with family and friends who love you and make you feel good about yourself. Tell them that you don’t want any divorce advice, you just want some time to chill and feel special because of what you mean to them.
5. Boost your energy levels by getting fit. It can be walking, running or cycling every day. Or if you prefer you could join a gym, or go dancing. Swimming or maybe yoga or pilates could be more what you’d prefer doing. Again it doesn’t matter – just as long as you enjoy it. Exercise also increases your feel good factor so that in itself will help you say goodbye to your need for divorce support.
6. Smile whether you feel like it or not and enjoy the smiles you get in return in all age ranges from children to old people. Not only will it make you feel better and help you forget about your divorce depression, but it will improve their day.
And the final 3 divorce tips?
7. Concentrate on the good things that you have in your life and do not focus on what you haven’t got. What you concentrate on in your life is what you create more of so if you focus on lack that’s what you attract but if you focus on plenty then that is what you will attract. However difficult your life might appear to be to you you can always find something to be grateful for.
8. Keep saying ‘I love my life’ even if you don’t mean it because eventually you will and the more you say it the quicker your mind believes it and it happens. At that stage you won’t need to ask the question ‘why divorce?’ again.
9. Look in the mirror and see the way that you are changing as a result of having done the previous 8 tips. And in seeing the difference starting to take place in your eyes and face it will give you the confidence and strength to continue and help you know how to recover from divorce.
And finally?
Remember who you were and enjoy getting to know yourself all over again. To help you do this I set it all out in far greater depth with further advice and guidance in my eBook 3 Easy Steps to End Divorce Pain.
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